I think I went six years. And I never did have kids because after six years my biological clock was too close to its end. I convinced myself I’d be okay. And I am. But I still grieve. I still wonder what would’ve happened if I’d had the conversation more honestly sooner.
My moment was when I watched him drag our ten week old puppy on the leash behind him, completely unaware that she had lost her feet from underneath her. I knew in that moment that he was not a father. He never once admitted it to me, even in or after the divorce. He thinks he chose kindness, but the real kindness would have been honesty.
kindness laced with lies is just cruelty in disguise.
I knew this story was in you. And I’ve felt it from you. It feels freeing and cathartic for you to write it out loud.
Extrapolated over the myriad of issues a couple can have, this is gold. Thank you for sharing something so poignant and painful. We tangle ourselves and each other in the external world, all to avoid looking within; the only place we can ever heal anything. When we take responsibility for other's feelings in the name of being kind, it seems to make such sense. We want to avoid causing them pain. That's what good people do right? But this post expertly delineates the inevitable head-on collision that results. It is a fabulous lesson we can all learn something so important from. Thank you, Alexander. 🙏🏻
Gulp. I feel this.
I think I went six years. And I never did have kids because after six years my biological clock was too close to its end. I convinced myself I’d be okay. And I am. But I still grieve. I still wonder what would’ve happened if I’d had the conversation more honestly sooner.
My moment was when I watched him drag our ten week old puppy on the leash behind him, completely unaware that she had lost her feet from underneath her. I knew in that moment that he was not a father. He never once admitted it to me, even in or after the divorce. He thinks he chose kindness, but the real kindness would have been honesty.
kindness laced with lies is just cruelty in disguise.
I knew this story was in you. And I’ve felt it from you. It feels freeing and cathartic for you to write it out loud.
Wow - this really resonated with me. Thank you for sharing such a powerful experience.
The body always knows. Even when we choose to ignore the message. So true.
Extrapolated over the myriad of issues a couple can have, this is gold. Thank you for sharing something so poignant and painful. We tangle ourselves and each other in the external world, all to avoid looking within; the only place we can ever heal anything. When we take responsibility for other's feelings in the name of being kind, it seems to make such sense. We want to avoid causing them pain. That's what good people do right? But this post expertly delineates the inevitable head-on collision that results. It is a fabulous lesson we can all learn something so important from. Thank you, Alexander. 🙏🏻